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Ritual ideas for your secular ceremony

You want to carry out a secular ceremony for your wedding, whether you have chosen a professional officiant or a loved one to lead your union, discover ideas for rituals to punctuate your ceremony ...



Popular rituals Two rituals are generally proposed for the ceremonies, because very appreciated by the bride and groom but also their guests: The rituals of the Ribbon and of the Sand. During the RIBBON RITUAL, the officiant or several of your relatives will tie your hands using 13 colored ribbons, according to the Celtic tradition inspired by this ritual. Each ribbon will have a different color, the meanings of which are as follows: Red: Passion, Strength Yellow: Confidence, Balance Green: Prosperity, Health Blue: Sincerity, Dedication White: Peace Black: Wisdom, Success Money: Creativity Gold: Wealth, Longevity, Intelligence Brown: Earth, the Hearth Rose: Happiness, Romance, Truth Gray: Calming Purple: Power Orange: Abundance This ritual is also the symbolism that your lives will be linked forever. THE SAND RITUAL This ritual consists of mixing several sands in a container of the shape you want Either two sands of different colors, or more, especially if you have children. Heritage of a Hawaiian tradition, it symbolizes the union of the bride and groom and their respective families.



Rituals around the theme of THE TREE The first very symbolic ritual, which is to PLANT A TREE, can be carried out if your secular ceremony takes place in a private garden (at your home, parents or family estate), if you rent a place, you will simply have to use a pot to replant the tree or shrub at home. The bride and groom will fill the pot or the hole with soil, as well as your relatives. The tree will then symbolize the construction of a new life. Also think about the species of tree you will choose: An olive tree: Longevity, prosperity, future, peace An Apple tree: Love, confidence, fertility, beauty, wisdom Magnolia: Fidelity, purity, elegance An Oak: Power, longevity, generosity Vine: Life, immortality, fertility, joy Another ritual associating the tree, and which can be coupled with the previous one: THE WISHING TREE Small labels that can receive a note will be made available to your guests. Each one will bring and tie this word to a tree branch. When the wedding is over, the spouses will discover the little notes left by the guests. An alternative to the guestbook for example. THE BORROWED TREE is often also offered in a guestbook, here, rather at the end of the ceremony, the officiant asks the bride and groom to put their fingerprints on the drawing of a tree and to sign next to it. Guests are then invited to do the same. The whole will form the foliage of the tree. The drawing can be kept by the bride and groom and make a wonderful memory for their day. Rituals around beverages The ritual of the FLOWER OF TEA, finds its origins in the Chinese tradition, it is about one or more balls of tea leaves braided around a flower. During the ceremony you will pour some of the hot water into a transparent teapot, then place the ball (s) of tea flowers in the teapot, pour the rest of the hot water into the container (be careful not to pour the water on the flower directly). The flower will then free itself from its leaves and hatch after a few minutes. A very beautiful symbol of the birth, the blossoming of your union and the blossoming of your love. The tea can be tasted by your guests. Little tip: do a test a few weeks before for this ritual, to check if the technique works well.



Lover of COCKTAIL, this ritual is made for you; the couple make together a cocktail of their choice, the Shake and enjoy it together. You can bring in the witnesses for the preparation. As a little extra, prepare the cocktail in larger quantities beforehand, then pour it into a small container to distribute (with the help of your witnesses, friends, relatives) to your guests so that they can enjoy it with you, and quench thirst during the rest of the ceremony. Another original ritual for wine lovers this time, the SEALED WINE RITUAL, you will have to choose a good (it's always better eh) bottle of wine, which will be sealed by the bride and groom, in a beautiful wooden box, for your ceremony. With this bottle will also be a letter written by each of the spouses during the preparations. Letters that can be more intimate than greetings read in front of all your guests. 5, 10 or even 20 years later, you can then open the box and discover the letter of the other, while tasting your bottle of wine. Other original rituals ...

Do you like the idea of ​​this ritual, but don't like the idea of ​​the bottle of wine? No problem, the ritual is also in the idea of ​​the TEMPORAL CAPSULE. During the ceremony, you can drop off objects, photos, letters that represent you. Once all the elements are in the box you will seal it, and can bury it or keep it closed for years. You can decline the idea by asking your guests to come up with an item that they think represents them. And a few years later, discovering it all together. A very beautiful memory of your day. In line with the ideas of objects brought back by your guests, another ritual for reading enthusiasts: the bride and groom library Each guest will have to come to the wedding with a book that is close to his heart, or representing for them the bride and groom. In the book, the guests will have written a little note for the bride and groom. The books will then be offered during the ceremony and will constitute a library of books.


The RITUAL OF CANDLES; the candle is very popular during ceremonies, but also in everyday life by many, the candle is a symbol of life, warmth, and associated with the soul. For this ritual, you will just need 4 candles (or 3 according to the ritual of the candles that you will perform) of different sizes according to your desires. Placed in lanterns or in a lantern, the first one lit will be a symbol of the past - by your parents or relatives who raised you. The second will symbolize the present - lit by a loved one who is by your side on a daily basis. The third symbol of the future - lit by your children or children near you. The fourth symbolizing infinite love, lit by the bride and groom. The ritual of BURNING YOUR FEARS, also has a very beautiful symbolism. The officiant asks the bride and groom to write their greatest fears on different pieces of paper. A container with a fire will be lit, then the bride and groom will have to throw these papers into the flames. A symbolic word can be said by the two spouses in order to promise each other that they will no longer be afraid of the future. For an original ceremony outing, end with the THROWING OF WOOL ritual, the guests will have a small ball of wool at their disposal. As the bride and groom pass down the aisle, they will have to throw them over them. Symbolic of creating links between families, what better way to end your ceremony and continue your D-Day with your loved ones!




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